“Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn’t feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive.”-Brene Brown
The subject of vulnerability is very close to my heart. It has helped me in life so very much. To me, expressing my vulnerability is like letting my secret voice be heard. It’s the voice of compassion that might be missing from a conversation. It’s the whole truth of what’s going on in my mind. When I go out on a limb–be vulnerable–I try to let my words flow from my internal voice; describing my feelings, sensations and positive intentions. This helps me move beyond fear and brings a sense of relief.
For example, the other day I was talking about something that excites me in front of a group. I got so excited that i went off on a tangent and I blanked out. Well, I simple said, “I’m sorry. I blanked out. What was I talking about?” Everyone seemed to have a sense of comfort seeing me ask for help. It created a deeper connection.
Vulnerability is key when one has to overcome a culture that teaches performance rather than truth.
Why does our culture teach us performance rather than truth? Hmmm, to me, this way of teaching was born from the loss of essence of what we should accomplish as a human species. It’s the lack of assessing human values and the cost of using ego instead of our spiritual connection. Living by truth rather than performance reminds us of our imperfections. It’s scary. It’s unknown. It reminds us that we have to make an effort and break our comfort. We need to shake loose our denials and see our shadows. It takes opening up our hearts and being willing to see all the good and bad within us.
Thank you for reading.