“In separateness lies the world’s great misery, in compassion lies the world’s true strength.” -Buddha
First off, know that the urge to judge means I care. This is how I turn judgement into compassion:
1) Creating a positive mindset; It is my mind that is thinking negatively. I try to turn the negative thoughts around by thinking of positive solutions. This enables positivity to radiates from my being to others.
2) Understanding; as in, understand where the other person is in their life presently. How are they feeling? What’s going on their life?
3) Setting empathic limits; others are more likely to manage their own impulses and needs when I set limits with empathy. This in turn, teaching them self-discipline.
4) Acting without reacting badly; through observation, I’ve found that everyone is struggling in life in one way or another. To deflate that struggle I try to channel positivity to others by demonstrating how to counter-balance my light from dark. In other words, I show kindness by modeling what I want others to achieve. Ultimately, reviving everyone’s being peacefully.
By doing the steps above, I am compelled to find compassion for others. I know from experience that judging others severs the line of communication. As you know, communicating with others is all about connection. If I let judgement get in the way of my connections then I miss out on creating some truly awesome and satisfying relationships.
Resist the urge to judge and give these steps a try next time you find yourself condemning others.
Thank you for reading.