“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”-Leo Buscaglia
My general approach to life is taking one defect of my character and work on it with God. Right now, I am working on my controlling attitude.
Where am I in the process? Well, I’ve been analyzing my controlling attitude. The first thing I’ve found is that a great deal of my controlling attitude branches from not encouraging with empathy. I’m finding that encouraging with empathy is keystone in living a wholehearted life.
What’s the root to empathic encouragement? To me, it’s active listening. I am not perfect, thank God, but I’ve started the process of reconstructing my listening skills. To illustrate, my husband and I were having difficulty communicating with our four year old son. We both thought that he just was not listening to us by constantly rebelling against the boundaries we set. Little did we know that it wasn’t a problem with our son. It was a problem with us not actively listening; listening so there’s a mutual understanding and trust. My son just told me the other day, “Mom, you are finally starting to listen to me.” I almost cried when he said that to me. Out of joy, of course, for the reason that I’m finally bringing my recovery alive in my everyday activities.
I can’t describe the joy I feel knowing that living wholeheartedly is helping not only my spiritual, emotional, physical and mental health, but also my relationships with others.
So grateful for the ability and strength to help God change myself and not obsessing over fixing/controlling others.
Thank you for reading.